Signs. They are too important to ignore. Why do you ask? Well because signs can save us from going to prison, getting our hearts broken, catching an STD, etc. Paying attention to signs & even investigating them can save you from a lot of trouble!
Women are notoriously known for saying all men are dogs or pigs, and a good man is hard to find. We cry to our girlfriends about how tired we are of giving our love, time, and bodies to men with seasonal intentions. But ladies, have you ever considered that this man showed you a long time ago that he wasn’t worth a damn? Haven’t you been listening to the thoughts that come out of his mouth? So how did you not know that he would be a deadbeat father to your child? How did you not know that he never wanted to get married? You hadn’t noticed that he doesn’t answer his phone after a certain time on the weekdays and not at all on Sunday’s- which is usually family day? The signs; they were there, Sweetheart, you just ignored them, rather intentionally or not. Three months. It usually takes about three months for the truth about a person to come out. Remember this.
Here’s a list of guys that you should not open your legs for-Save yourself the frustration, and your best friend another venting session. Just don’t bother with these men!
#5- Mr. Spineless
Listen here, if you’ll physically defend him before he physically defends you, that’s a problem. If as an adult he can be peer pressured, you should be concerned. If you can tear him down as a man and control him like a puppet, that’s an issue. If he’s scared to stand up to his mother (doesn’t have to be disrespectful, but she does need to understand that he’s a grown ass man now) to his friends, his neighbors, his co-workers, or his boss, then baby girl, he doesn’t deserve the va-jim-jam! He shouldn’t even be allowed to look at it! Strength and confidence should be every woman’s requirements. Only bitter, broke down brauds want a man that they can verbally and emotionally abuse. Are you a bitter broke down braud? If so, just stop reading now. If you can’t feel safe and secure with him, then why would you give him the most precious part of you? His ball-less ass is letting you know that you will have to wear the dress and the slacks in the situationship, and we ain’t on that!
#4- The Bad Boy
He has tattoos, clout in the streets, cars, soldiers that would go to war for him, and groupies. A rebel whose had his fair share of run-ins with the law, and a death stare that soaks your panties in milliseconds. If you take your underwear off, it better be to put on a fresh pair. Girl, don’t you lay down with this man! Why lay down with a man that can’t let these streets go? One day he can be rocking your world and the next day he’ll be rocking an orange jumper because his extracurricular activities have caught up with him. Also, bad boys usually have a few territorial women who have no problem displaying their jealousy. Who needs all that drama? If he isn’t a reformed bad boy, leave him be. It’s not worth the heartache Sis.
#3- Player, Player
If everywhere y’all go a woman is smiling in his face, calling his name, hugging on him and shit, RUN! If all the names that show up on his cellphone are female, or if every time he gets a call, he must dip off, RUN! If he turns his phone away to text, or it seems that he has put you on a schedule and doesn’t answer his phone certain times of the day or on certain days, RUN! Do (clap) Not (clap) Let (clap) That (clap) Muthablucka (clap) HIT! Chile, don’t you have sex with that man! There’s no telling what he’ll give you! I’m talking from STD’s to a crazy wife or girlfriend! All three things could kill you. Pay attention Sis, get out before you exchange love juices with him. Staying can bring you some serious drama to your life. It’s not that serious!
#2- Mr. I ain’t got it
*Side eye* Why would you lie down with a broke mutha? Why?! He’s content with living paycheck to paycheck, doesn’t have savings, and his idea of fine dining is Applebee’s. Most of your dates are Netflix and chill! Keep it 100! Are you okay with sleeping with someone that cringes when you suggest hanging out? Or when you name a restaurant you want to try, he asks you “How much is it?” with a weird look on his face? Sweetie, if you’re okay with that, then you ma’am you need Jesus, Mary, & Joseph! The moment he starts making smart comments or jokes about you paying for the next date, RUN! If there are no signs of drive or ambition to better his finances, RUN! Losers don’t get the va-jim-jam, PERIOD!
#1- The Woman-hater
Sis, he thinks women should be seen, not heard. We’re only good for popping out babies and bouncing on tallywag. HE (clap) DOES (clap) NOT (clap) RESPECT (clap) YOU! (clap) Or any other woman on this planet. You are a nut and a trophy piece to him. Not only wouldn’t I drop it low on him, but I wouldn’t give him the time of day! Why even entertain someone like him? This only tells me that you have low self-esteem, and need a crash course on self-love. There were signs. I guarantee it won’t take three months to find out what he thinks about females. As soon as he begins to sound like Donald Trump, grab your purse and haul ass!