It doesn’t matter how much pain you’re in; they’re in greater pain. Your arm broke, & both their arms & legs are broke. You’re going back to school to complete your degree; they’re going back to get 2 degrees. You got yourself a set of new wheels; 2016, they gotta go get a 2017. You can sing, they can SANG. Like dawg, KNOCK IT OFF! Cut it out already! There’s nothing wrong with a little bit of competition, but this crap here is just unhealthy. If your so-called loved one refuses to let you have a moment- refuses to let you shine, that’s a serious problem. There’s room at the top for everybody. I don’t want to be a part of an ‘Anything you can do, I can do better’ relationship, and you shouldn’t want to be either.
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#4- Never congratulates you
You couldn’t wait until your lunch break to tell your loved one that you got a big promotion, only to have them say some dry shit like, “Good for you.” Or “Hmm, must be nice.” You’ve busted your tail, and finally your salon, restaurant, or boutique is open for business, and you don’t receive any, “That’s great! Congratulations!” “You go, girl! I knew you could do it!” “That’s good news bro! I hope it’s a success!” Nope, all you get is, “You really did it huh?” “I hope you know what you’re doing; this won’t be easy.” Like you don’t know that already! Forget the fact that you’re getting married to your soulmate (you’ve kissed so many frogs and laid down with so many dogs, that you have fleas and smell like a swamp!). Forget that you’re finally stable in life after a trillion trials, and tribulations, THEY WON’T ACKNOWLEDGE IT! Everyone needs praise. It doesn’t matter how old we get, we all want to hear 'good job,' I knew you could do it, I wish the best for you, congratulations… there’s a need to hear these things from our parents, siblings, spouses, and besties. If they are incapable of genuinely giving you a round of applause when you’ve earned it (especially when you’re everyone’s cheerleader), more than likely they are some serious haters.
#3- Compliments everyone but you
Everyone at the party is cute and handsome except your ass. Everybody is brilliant, talented, and has potential, but not you. You could bake the best sweet potato pie in the family, and everybody will tell you, except that one person. You know who I'm talking about; that one person that sprinkles mediocrity all over your greatness. You just answered every question on jeopardy, solved all THEIR issues (because you’re supportive like that, and because their mama and their preschool teacher failed to teach them how to problem solve), AND you just read some hieroglyphics like a first-grade book. Do you get a “Yous special, yous smart?” *Dj Khalid voice* from this loved one? HELL TO THE NAW NAW NAW! Face the music Sis/Bruh, THEY DON’T LIKE YOU! THEY CAN’T STAND YOUR ASS! PROBABLY NEVER COULD! WAKE UP ALREADY!
#2- They’re always too busy or too broke to support you
You see them all over Instagram having drinks with this person, eating out with another person, at the club with this friend, at the spa with that friend, but can’t ever find the time to show up to any of your events or to just hang out with you in general. All the time, every time, they are broke Betty and Billy when it comes to supporting your business, secret Santa, or your birthday. If they consistently hit you with, “I’ll try to come.” Or “Maaannnn, I just had to pay…” STOP INVITING THEM & STOP ASKING FOR THEIR SUPPORT! Someone once said, “Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities” and that’s the truth! Real friends and family who honestly loves you, don’t need for you to beg for their support and time; they will give both automatically and effortlessly. Something is wrong. They have some issue with you that they are too cowardly to approach you with, or an issue that’s so childish that they’re too embarrassed to come to you about, or worse, the issue is internal and has absolutely nothing to do with you; it’s just easy to hurt the ones you love. You’ve heard that one before, right?
#1- Stunts your growth
You want to move to another state or down another career path, and your loved one makes you feel like change is a huge risk with devastating consequences. You want to apply for a grant to fund your non-profit organization, but the first thing that comes out of your loved one’s mouth is, “The state is broke.” You’re moving up the corporate ladder, and your loved one quickly reminds you how difficult it will be for you because you’re a woman, or a minority, or both. Every good/great thing you want to do or accomplish, they shoot it down in a heartbeat- puncturing your confidence and self-esteem, which is unhealthy and straight bull crap! They want to kill your high to keep you low, because they are complacent with just getting by. They don’t want you to become anything because they will never be anything. You’ve been on their level for so long, that the thought of you growing scares them, so they do everything in their power to keep you from evolving. How long are you going to allow this person to shit on your rainbow, because they can’t see past their failures?
Let these haters know that you’re going places, and there’s nothing that they can do about it!