Okay, I’m going to be honest. I listed the 5 exes that I have/had, in hopes that you ladies & gents could relate LOL!
If they were good for anything it would be the way they made you scream, holler, shake and vibrate all over the bed. The way your ex-handled you sexually haunts you. You have been on a quest to find someone just as good or better, and have come up short every time. He/She crunked danced all over your nerves. Cheated, mishandled you, showed you time and time again that you two had no business even being together, but when it came to the bedroom, they said and did all the right things, which at times, made all the big issues seem small and petty. Best sex you've ever had, sure, but that would only have held the relationship together for so long, and you know that now.
‘Break up to make up' by the Stylistics was written just for you two. Social media blocking, number changing, cutting off their family, flattening tires, showing up to the same events with your new boo just to piss them off, all of this and only to get back together. Y'all were crazy! Both of you! It was just something about the way they said your name, smiled at you, how intensely they said I love you. It's like they were too much to handle, but at the same time, you couldn't imagine life without them. So you did that dysfunctional dance until one of you came to your senses and realized that the entire situation was unhealthy and that you deserved better.
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You two just had to cross that forbidden line, and now look at y'all; all awkward and shit. You can't even get back the friendship you had before because you decided to wander into uncharted territory. Things were so great between you two that y'all just knew *eye roll* that getting into a relationship made sense. NOPE! NOT AT ALL! Things changed drastically ESPECIALLY after you guys bumped uglies. Yes! Sex will change the dynamic of a relationship. Things that you didn't care about when you were friends, you care about now. He wanted you to change your dress code; you wanted him to get rid of all his so-called ‘play sisters' and friends. You drove each other crazy with your new-found sensitivity and rules, to the point of not being able to hold a civil conversation. Not long after reality smacked you in the face, and showed you the mistake that was made. Some people don't need to be promoted; some belong right where they are.
You don't remember them until someone mentions him or her. You wave your hand and simply say, "We just didn't work out" because that's the truth. There was no bitter ending, you both just decided to call it quits, one way or another. You are positively indifferent to this person; you don't hate them nor love them, you couldn't care less about them. That relationship is so irrelevant you laugh and shake your head at the fact that you even went there with that person in first place. How many times has a person come up to you and said, "Hey, are you and (insert irrelevant ex-name) still together?" and you're like, "Who?"
You gave them everything! Your heart, your soul, your Netflix log-in info, and this fool decides to shatter your world with betrayal or a goodbye. They left you questioning your entire existence, wondering why you weren't good enough, and Where did it all go wrong. You can't help but compare others to them. Hell, you can't help attracting others like them. Yep, they messed you up big time. Oh, and it doesn't help if they were a family favorite! *eye roll* Oh, God, if the fam loved them, they brought him up every chance they got, making the healing process slow and more painful.