Sure, every couple has arguments and small disagreements, but if every one of those arguments and disagreements end with her giving you the silent treatment, ignoring you, or just downright attitude, that’s a problem fellas. Or even worse, she carries that ridiculous attitude over until the next day, and the next, and the next, making you shut down emotionally because apparently, expressing yourself is the devil’s work. People make mistakes. Small ones, enormous ones, ones that affect nothing, and ones that affect EVERYTHING. Not all mistakes require you to be crucified or stoned. Nobody is perfect, period! Even with knowing that, she still expects you to keep her happy 24/7, Bro, just hand her a bible and run. Let God be her man, because he’s the only one that’s flawless.
2. Miss “You’re my everything”
Let’s keep it real, men LOVE to feel needed by their woman. No matter if it’s to remove a stubborn lid off a jar, or to make sure all the doors and windows are locked before bed, being needed makes a man feel, well… like he’s valued.
Some women take ‘needing’ their man too far though. When she starts to always ‘need’ you around, as if she can’t function day to day without you, or has meltdowns when you make plans that don’t involve her, or is always making plans for the two of you without running them past you first; I mean straight up disregard for your time, constantly texting and calling when you’re at work, hanging out with your guys, or even out running errands, I mean, her every waking moment is centered around clocking you, DEMANDING that you give her and only her your time and attention… GET THE HELL OUT OF DODGE MAN! ABORT! ABORT! ABORT! This behavior is unhealthy, childish and just downright creepy as hell.
This can lead to violence against you or herself, and you DO NOT want to be involved with anything like that. You’re both adults, and if she can’t understand how important it is for a couple to have time away from one another, than you need to move on sir, and quickly!
3. Miss “I’m going to mold you into the man that I want you to be”
*Cues up Mary J. Blige song Take me as I am*
Um, excuse me, not a woman on this earth can make (as in force in some way) a man to change, well, unless she’s a therapist. Other than that, brother man has to want different and better for himself.
She will not see growth until you’re ready; and who’s to say that you’re going to grow in her direction? Her ‘different’ and ‘better’ for you may be totally left field from what you want for yourself.
Nagging, scolding, micro-managing, and trying to force you to achieve goals that she’s created for you, is a recipe for disaster, and anyone with a brain knows it. You’re going to rebel like a teenager and drive both of you nuts. Who in the hell wants a woman who thinks of you as a task or a project like it’s operation build-a-man?
4. Miss “Give me everything I don’t give myself”
Beware of this gold digging, keeping up with the joneses, ‘I don’t love myself so I need you to love me’ chick right here. She wants you to keep her hair and nails done every two weeks, when she wasn’t doing that before you came into the picture.
She wants you to fly her to places she can’t afford, or too cheap to pay for, or worse, too lazy to grind and save up for. She wants you to pay every bill that she has, when she doesn’t even pay every bill that she has.
This chick wants to live a certain lifestyle off your income, period. You have to tell her she’s beautiful, sexy, not fat, smart, etc etc all day long, because her self-esteem has been shot to hell.
Being with a woman that wants you to solely provide her with things that she doesn’t have, give, or is working toward getting herself, will drain your energy and your bank account. Unless you like being a sweet lick who never gets tired of pacifying and praising your woman every five seconds, this relationship will burn out fast and hard.
5. Miss “Men are scum, but I don’t want to be alone”
This was me. I had to ask myself, if men aren’t worth a damn like I so-call believe, why in the world do I keep dating them? And why do they keep dating me? There are all these memes, signs, organizations, movements, t-shirts, etc dedicated to women knowing their worth, well guess what? Men deserve to know theirs too. It took me a long time to understand that it doesn’t matter how small or how big of a role you play in a breakup, you STILL play a role; yep, it takes two to tango baby.
Why would a man want to be with a woman that constantly male bashes and craps on their entire existence? How is that attractive? How is that cute? Fellas, if your girl never has anything positive to say about the male species, you need to move on.
How many times are you going to allow her to tell you in so many ways, that she’s just tolerating you? How many times does she have to show you that, all she needs is help with her kids, bills, and a substitute for her vibrator? Nothing more.
Bro, You aren’t her man, you’re A MAN that’s providing her with her wants and needs. She doesn’t give a damn about what you want or what you desire. Other than money, sex, and occasional company, you’re worthless to her. Is this the type of woman you really want to entertain?
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