If you have to keep giving her the pipe just so she won’t put you on child support, then you have no business dating or even entertaining the thought of settling down. Sis, If you have to secretly date because if your kid’s father finds out, he’s going to stop calling and caring for the babies, then a relationship should be the last thing on your mind. There needs to be some respect and order among the two of you, for this to be a healthy co-parenting situation. Co-parenting shouldn’t be fueled by secrets and lies. You’re no longer together, GET OVER IT! LET IT GO! Using the children against one another is sad, pathetic and childish. Until both of you grow up, LEAVE US SINGLE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR LOVE ALONE!
2. You have no concept of the term compromise
If your motto is ‘My way or the highway’ keep your selfish, self-centered, narcissistic tail away from us decent human beings! It’s all about you and what you want. From the bedroom to the kitchen, to the activities y’all do, it’s all dictated and controlled by you. This behavior is not only toxic as hell, but frustrating, and it gets old quickly. Being this way will cause nothing but arguments, stress, and resentment, which could lead to a couple of things like a breakup, or a trip to jail. IT’S NOT WORTH IT! Just be by your damn self and spare us all the trouble.
3. You’re miserable
You hate your life and everyone in it. You don’t like your job, friends, family, neighborhood, etc. To you, nothing in your life is positive; you just can’t seem to find your ‘happy’. A quick word sis/bro, no one wants to be with a Debbie Downer. If you can’t offer/provide good vibrations and dope ass energy, keep your Emo ass all to yourself, we don’t want to be subjected to that. Get into a better space/place in your life AND THEN SEEK OUT A RELATIONSHIP. Like Will Smith says, your happiness is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY! It’s unfair to come into someone’s life and be a dark cloud hanging over their heads, especially if they were doing aye okay before fooling around with you.
4. Apologizing & being accountable for your actions is beneath you
It’s always everyone else’s fault. You don’t acknowledge your role in foolery or destruction; everyone is always TRIPPING or BEING OVER THE TOP, because nothing is ever that serious to you, or is ALWAYS SERIOUS TO YOU. Being wrong is foreign and you refuse to admit that you owe someone somewhere an apology. Saying I'm sorry pains you to the point where you cringe at the thought of it, but oh Lord please forbid if you aren’t apologized to when you feel that you’ve been wronged. You’re childish, ridiculous, and an ass, which makes you undateable!
5. Your friends & family are overly involved in your life
Are you grown or not? Your parents, siblings, and homies shouldn’t have a say in how you move. If every decision you make has to be run by your mom, dad, and your bestie, then shame on you! Your business is not theirs! It’s okay to get advice and there, but no one wants to be linked up with someone that has no privacy in their life. Until you get a backbone and/or some balls, a relationship shouldn’t even be a thought. Stand on your own two feet and keep your mouth closed! If that’s something that seems impossible to achieve, then STAY SINGLE!